Find your happiness in this time of crisis!

Ask yourself: Am I happy? Am I anxious? Am I depressed? Am I concerned about the future? How can I cope? How can I find happiness?

The whole world is facing a crisis right now. You might find yourself scared, worried, depressed, anxious, bored, concerned about the future. Seems hopeless? Feel you can’t cope? Lost your sanity? No way!! We can find happiness during this difficult time! Here are some tips to help us cope:

Happiness comes from within, not from things! What can you do to find your inner happiness? Find something that works for you!

Things you can do to help yourself:

  1. Listen to music! Crank it up!! For something different, try different genres of music. There are many types available: pop, rock, classical, religious, reggae, hip hop, folk, blues, disco heavy metal plus many more.
  2. Dance like no one is watching! Dancing is a great way to exercise and it can also help with weight loss as well as keeps you moving.
  3. Get outside! Huh? Yep, fresh air does the body good! Things you can do outside: take a walk, find a serene place to sit and reflect, play outside games. Get a trash bag and a stick, pick up trash and throw it away. Have you taken a drive lately and observed the amount of trash lying around? YUK!
  4. Call a friend! We don’t have to see each other to talk. Whatever happened to a good old fashioned phone call? Pick up your phone and let someone know you are thinking about them.
  5. Watch something funny on tv or internet. Turn off the depressing things on tv. A lot of news right now consists of the same thing… turn it off… do something fun instead.
  6. Paint a picture, color, do word searches, draw a picture.
  7. Exercise your mind! Check out websites to help with brain challenges such as http://www.lumosity.com
  8. Read a book, magazine, newspaper.
  9. Do some photography – Not a photo journalist? Me neither. Grab a camera and take some photos. You’d be surprised at what you can do.
  10. Exercise! It’s good for your health. Follow your favorite trainer on the internet, exercise to a fitness DVD, etc..
  11. Find your faith! According to the Bible, faith is “the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen!”

For those that have children in the home, here are things you can do with them to help:

  1. Communicate with your children! Ask questions. How are they feeling? What can you help them with? What are their worries? What are their accomplishments? Remember to listen! That’s the key! Offer advice if they ask for it. Always show kindness to them! They learn from our actions!!
  2. Be concerned! Take care of your children – they are our future. Be concerned for their safety. Know where they are and what they are doing at all times. You can still be concerned without being overprotective. Allow their freedom within reason.
  3. Family game time! There are plenty of games available or you can always make up your own.
  4. Read a book to your children! Ask questions about the book after you read it to them.
  5. Take a virtual tour! Most places are closed right now but there are plenty of tours available online. They are very informative and fun!
  6. Teach your children basic essentials of taking care of themselves! Show them things like cooking, doing laundry, cleaning, washing a car, grocery shopping, preparing a budget, balancing a checkbook, changing a tire, fixing something that’s broke. Don’t make these things sound like a chore, MAKE IT FUN!!
  7. Set aside time for them to do homework – education is important too! If they need help with homework, try to help them or get them help. Homework doesn’t have to be boring or scary. Make it fun! Do a science project together, learn math with them, host a spelling bee.
  8. Assign them chores! Don’t be afraid to have your children help around the house. They are never to young to start learning. Teach them how. Set a good example!
  9. Let them go outside and play! Allow them to get messy and dirty. A little dirt never hurt anyone.
  10. Family meal time! Make it, eat it, clean up the mess – TOGETHER!

I hope this gives you some ideas of what you can do to help you find your inner happiness and your sanity!

My best to you and your family!

Sources: http://www.lumosity.com

The Bible

Sex fixes everything?

My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3 years. Our life has been a wonderful mixture of love, laughter, family times, fun times, work, and play! Sometimes it seems that we have better days than most of our friends and family.

However, we have days like everyone else where it seems we won’t get through a tough time. My husband always jokes around with me and says,

“Sex fixes everything!”

HUH? Yeah right! He will even tell me that when he goes to the doctor for his annual check up that the doctor tells him to have more sex. I just laugh!

Like I am to believe that? I am in my late-50’s going through menopause. Sometimes having sex hurts or there is no desire. Sometimes I get depressed and don’t want sex. Usually around winter months when we are couped up together and could have the best sex of our life. Dang!

What is menopause?

According to webmd.com, “Menopause is the end of a woman’s menstrual cycles. The term can describe any of the changes you go through just before or after you stop having your period, marking the end of your reproductive years.” Yes, I get grumpy, have mood swings, have hot flashes, have night sweats. Fun times! NOT!! However, I get through it.

I always felt that “making love” was better than “having sex.” Not true, I’ve experienced both in the past and feel that both have their advantages. “Making love” is an expression that I use to feel better about having sex. It’s a gentle experience that helps me feel loved. To me, I have to be “in the mood” to make love. “Having sex” is more of an aggressive way to make love and can be done at the spur of a moment. Anywhere, any time.

Him? He could be ready in a heartbeat. Well, with the help of a little blue pill. Cause he’s older too. It usually seems that guys can be ready for sex in an instant. Not always true. They are human too. After men turn 40, their testosterone levels lower making it harder for them to get an erection.

TESTOSTERONE

“Testosterone is the key male sex hormone that regulates fertility, muscle mass, fat distribution, and red blood cell production.” (https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/276013.php)

Since our marriage, we have tried out my husband’s theory on occasion and find that it works. Sex DOES fix everything! We both feel better, communicate better, and our love for each other flourishes. My depression lifts and I feel as though I can tackle the world. We overcome obstacles in our way. TOGETHER!

I recently read an article which I’d like to share with you… it’s a good read!

https://bigthink.com/Sofia-Gray/sex-depression-anxiety-symptoms

Sex can help you feel better, reduce anxiety, stress, and help you sleep better.

No, I am not saying just go out and have sex with anyone! If you are in a relationship, choose your partner. If you are not in a relationship, choose wisely. And, always practice safe sex! Use condoms! There are some nasty STD’s out in this world.

My advice, start loving yourself and…

HAVE MORE SEX!

Yes, my husband would agree!

Sources:

https://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/menopause-basics#1

https://bigthink.com

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com

Welcome to the new year!

A new year! New challenges? Possibly. Life gives us challenges, roadblocks, worries, etc. However, we can overcome those obstacles! I know, I’ve been there. I’ve had times when I didn’t know where I was going to live, what I was going to eat, if I’d have a job the next day (when I owned a small business), loss of loved ones, grief, abandonment, and much more. I overcame these obstacles. You can too!

Here are a few things we can do to strive for a better year ahead:

Feel free to set goals in life! Small goals. Accomplish those goals and set more goals. Take small steps if you need to.

Make mistakes in life! We learn by our mistakes. Even a small mistake can create a huge learning possibility. Bigger mistakes may hurt worse, yet they can also lead to a better life.

Make new friendships! Friends come and go yet a true friend will stick with you to the end. Friendships may end. New friendships are formed. Some friends hurt us. Those we may have trusted. Remember, they are human too. Friends talk bad about you when your not around – they are not a true friend! Find true friends!! Where do you find these friends? Find something in common: go to the park, volunteer somewhere you’d like to help, join a club, etc.

Be your best! How? Just be yourself! Don’t fret about what others think of you! You are great! You deserve greatness! Make mistakes! Learn from your mistakes! Move on when necessary! Most of all… love yourself!

Ask for help when needed! You do not have to bear your burdens alone! Ask for God’s help, ask for a friend’s help, ask for professional help if needed!

And, contact me! I am here for you! I won’t judge you! I will listen to you!

I CARE!

MAKE IT A GOOD YEAR FOR YOU!!

Immature forever… Forever young!

My goal in life is to be happy and spread happiness to others!

I used to be a shy, hide-in-the-corner, type of girl. I used to hide when friends and family would come to visit. Even though I spoke or sang in front of large audiences, I was very nervous and never looked at anyone. In school I was known as the geek or the shy girl that never talked nor had friends.

I was a people-pleaser. I would do what I thought made others proud of me. I felt I had to prove myself as a person worthy of love. If I screwed up, I hated myself! I felt I was not worthy of any praise or if someone told me I did a good job, I would not believe it.

I had great parents that taught me right from wrong, taught me about God, taught me how to take care of myself, my home and a family. They did their best to keep me from harms way. Never ever did I back talk my parents, get in trouble at school, etc… I learned how to take care of animals, plant gardens, harvest the gardens, can our own food, make my own clothes, etc…

However, I was a sad girl! Why? I may never know this answer. What I do know is this…

I am now a happier person, sometimes still shy, sometimes a little crazy, sometimes a LOT of immaturity. I love myself! Yes, I still have my moments when I get upset with myself if I feel I have upset another person but I came to realize that I cannot be a people-pleaser. I cannot make others happy. Their happiness has to come from within just as mine does.

Some people may say, “act your age.” What is age? Age is just a number. I’m sure many of us have aches, pains, heartaches, health ailments, family troubles, relationship problems, and other things too numerous to mention.

It’s how we deal with these problems that make us who we are. We CAN overcome our problems! We CAN make it to better health, we CAN survive the tough times! WE ARE STRONG!

I found a great book that has a lot of what I call “immature information.” This book is “The Encyclopedia of Immaturity” by the editors of “Klutz.” It’s filled with 410 pages of nothing but immaturity! Feel free to visit their website at www.klutz.com for more information and great ideas for youngsters of all ages.

I plan to be immature forever! Why? I want to be forever young!!

So get up off the couch, stop dreading the bad things in life and…

LIVE YOUR LIFE AS IF TODAY WERE YOUR LAST DAY ON EARTH! BE IMMATURE! STAY FOREVER YOUNG… AT HEART!!

Am I Grouchy? Ouchy, ouchy!

Ever been grouchy? Sure! We all get grouchy from time to time. What can be done? Do we have to stay grouchy? No! Is there help for us? Yes! Today I’m going to cover this topic and find out how we can overcome our grouchy self.

What does “grouchy” mean? According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, being grouchy means “tending to complain about things : having a bad temper.” What? Really? Yes, that’s it, in a nutshell!

Complaining about things makes us grouchy. Constant complaining wears on us and everyone around us. I know I get tired of hearing people complain about everything. Especially those we’re around all the time, whether it be at work or at home. Being grouchy can also bring on health ailments. You may not realize it but being grouchy can affect your heart, your lungs, your stomach, as well as bring on other health issues.

What is a temper? The actual term is “temperament.” According to the dictionary, a temperament is “a person’s or animal’s nature, especially as it permanently affects their behavior.”

Having a bad temper makes us a grouchy person. Temper, temper, temper! A bad temper will affect our relationships with everyone we come into contact with. A bad temper also effects our health and well being. If you have a bad temper, do people actually want to be around you? No!

We CAN change! How?

First, find out your personality type. There are 4 types of temperament:

1) Sanguine (enthusiastic, active, and social)

2) Choleric (short-tempered, fast, and irritable)

3) Melancholic (analytical, wise, and quiet)

4) Phlegmatic (relaxed and peaceful)

Feel free to take a personality test: https://temperamenttest.org/en-us/temperament/ You could find out that you might be in 1 or all of the temperament categories.

Second, come to the realization that we can’t change our genetics; however, we can change our personality. Come to terms with yourself that you are grouchy or have a temper then you can make a change for the good.

Third, change your attitude! Keep track of your feelings, what’s making you feel this way? What can you do to change your attitude? Find those ways. Find what works for you. What works for me may not necessarily work for you. A good attitude can help.

Fourth, MAKE THE CHANGE! Take small steps, if needed. Talk to your “Higher Power.”

Best of luck in finding out your temperament and making the change! You can do it! I have confidence in you!

Sources: Merriam-Webster Dictionary

http://www.psychologytoday.com

http://Temperamenttest.org

Woodstock 50 years later!

The Woodstock 50th year anniversary celebration of the original Woodstock was conducted August 16th through 19th, 2019. I attended this event with my husband to see what the hype is all about. I was only 6 years old when the original Woodstock took place. I had heard of Woodstock but never realized the important things this event added to our culture.

The Woodstock Music Festival began on August 15, 1969, as half a million people waited on a dairy farm in Bethel, New York, for the three-day music festival to start. Billed as “An Aquarian Experience: 3 Days of Peace and Music,” the epic event would later be known simply as Woodstock and become synonymous with the counterculture movement of the 1960s. Woodstock was a success, but the massive concert didn’t come off without a hitch: Last-minute venue changes, bad weather and the hordes of attendees caused major headaches. Still, despite—or because of—a lot of sex, drugs, rock ‘n’ roll and rain, Woodstock was a peaceful celebration and earned its hallowed place in pop culture history.

Woodstock was held in the town of Bethel, NY surrounded by the Catskill Mountains. Concert goers were a diverse group of people and experienced bad weather, muddy conditions and a lack of food, water and adequate sanitation. Even though there were approximately a half million people in attendance, the concert went off without too many issues. Only 2 deaths were reported. One person was run over by a tractor as they had fallen asleep and the driver didn’t know they were there. The other person died of a drug-related incident.

Woodstock 1969 performers included Arlo Guthrie, John Sebastain, Santana, The Greatful Dead, Janice Joplin, Creedance Clearwater Revival, The Who, Jimi Hendrix, and Jefferson Airplane. The festival lasted for 3 days regardless of sunshine or rain and lack of food and water.

Festival goers were a diverse group of people, some were called “hippies.” It was the end of an era of the civil rights movement. In an era of much unrest, protests, and the Vietnam War, this event gave concert goers a way to escape into music and to spread unity and peace. A motto some used was “make love, not war.”

August 16th – 19th, 2019 was the 50th anniversary celebration of the original Woodstock! This was a 3 day event that included several of the great musicians that were at the original Woodstock 50 years earlier. These included Santana, Blood, Sweat & Tears, and John Fogerty from CCR.

This time around, concert goers had to pass through metal detectors and were only able to take in clear plastic bags and purses of a certain size. This is due to the recent shootings around the world. I am grateful that I did not see anything terrifying happening at this event, such as a shooting. It appeared that people of many diverse cultures were in attendance and were enjoying themselves. Ages ranged from young children to older adults that had been in attendance at the original Woodstock. Now and then I could smell marijuana which is customary for a concert such as this. A lot of making new friends, dancing and singing went on regardless of the weather.

We drove 8 hours to stay the weekend in New York so we could attend this event. Yes, we also sat in the rain for several hours the 3rd night of the event. We had to clear the field before the concert and was told to return to our cars until the inclement weather subsided. Most people did as was told but we were rebels and hung out near the restrooms with others. Yep, we were rebels. We sang and danced for 3 nights in a row.

I was amazed to hear the stories from Santana and John Fogerty – how they had gotten invited to perform at the original Woodstock festival, the people they saw at the concert and the events that happened during that awesome weekend. John Fogerty told us that they had to be taken by helicopter to the event because of the traffic jam and the amount of people in attendance made it so they couldn’t get to the stage. He said the helicopter was not what he expected. It was only a 2-seater.

All in all I was tired by the end of this weekend event, yet I laughed as I thought about the original Woodstock…

I’m glad I was only 6 years old when the original Woodstock took place because I would have been out there enjoying myself in the ’60s as the other party goers were doing back then. Here are a few photos of myself and my husband:

Woodstock is perhaps best described by Max Yasgur, the humble farmer who lent his land for the occasion. Addressing the audience on day three he said, “…You’ve proven something to the world…the important thing that you’ve proven to the world is that a half a million kids, and I call you kids because I have children who are older than you are, a half a million young people can get together and have three days of fun and music and have nothing but fun and music and God bless you for it!”

I realized that the original Woodstock was not a bad thing. It was to bring people together. We need to realize this in today’s world. There is too much anger and hatred in the world today.

Woodstock is not about sex, drugs and rock-n-roll, it’s about unity, peace and love!!

Source: https://www.history.com/topics/1960s/woodstock

Photos: Property of Janet G. W.