Once Upon A Time

Once upon a time, there was a little girl came into the world. This little girl had 2 older siblings. They were raised in a strict Christian home, taught the ways of God, taught how to cook, clean, sew their own clothes, farm, plant and harvest crops for survival.

At the age of 10, this little girl accepted Jesus into her heart and asked God to forgive her of her sins. She was baptized and went to church with her parents every time there was a service. She sang in churches throughout the state, sang on television and several radio programs.

As this little girl grew older, going to to school and finishing high school, getting her 1st job, she realized there was a world out there she did not know of. A world her godly parents shielded her from. Hmmm, she wanted to see what this world is about.

Long story short… she went to Bible college. She wanted to be a Youth Evangelist. Unfortunately, due to unforeseen circumstances, the college closed and she had to move back home without being able to graduate from this college.

Depression set in. Severe depression. How could this happen? Is this not what God had intended for her? She actually contemplated suicide. She made a phone call to her oldest sister who talked with her and kept her from doing such a horrible thing.

Several years later she married a great guy and became pregnant. Wonderful news! Unfortunately, early into the pregnancy she has a miscarriage. A short time later, she became pregnant again. This time, they had a beautiful daughter!

Shortly after her daughter was born, she was told her older sister had cancer and didn’t have long to live. Sadly, her oldest sister passed away at the young age of 36.

Again, depression set in. She questioned God on why and how he could let this terrible thing happen. Her sister had 2 young beautiful children. Why didn’t he take her instead of her sister? She would have given anything to get her sister back.

However, this was not God’s plan!

Unfortunately, this little girl now a lady in her 30’s, turned her back on God. She became resentful toward God, doubting and wondering if He really existed.

Sadly, after 10 years of marriage, she asked for a divorce from her husband. He knew she was struggling within, as he too was raised in a Christian home. He granted her wish for divorce. She and her ex-husband both loved their daughter and kept in communication on what was best for her.

She met and dated another guy. She married this guy thinking she was in love again and he could help her raise her daughter as he had 3 wonderful children of his own. Sadly, this marriage ended after 13 years of hardship and struggle.

She was scared and afraid to be on her own. How could she survive? She wasn’t making enough money to raise her daughter on her own. How could she provide for her daughter, find good babysitters while she was working, etc… She was afraid and not sure she could be independent.

At this point, her sister gave her and her daughter a place to stay until she could get back on her feet. Her sister had been there on several occasions before in her time of need as well.

The young lady moved on with her life. There were times when she and her daughter were not sure if they would have food on their table or a roof over their head. However, she worked hard and became independent and provided for her daughter.

Where was God? Did he still love her? Yes, he did! He was there with her all the time even though she had doubted Him.

This lady now in her late 40’s started going back to church. She asked God for forgiveness. She was sorry she ever doubted Him. He had been there all the time. It was her who turned away from Him.

This lady went on to college. She put in long hours each day, working 4 part time jobs and going to school full time. She graduated with honors earning an Associate’s Degree in Early Childhood Education.

She eventually found a fantastic guy! Wow, this guy is awesome, she thought! However, is she ready to get married again? Is this in God’s plan? He has 4 beautiful children and 6 beautiful grandchildren. Does she want to be a grandma? Lot’s of questions!

Yes, she did it! Asking God for guidance, she accepted his proposal. They were married! The 2 families have blended making a wonderful, beautiful family!

At times this lady still questions God and wonders if He still loves her. In quiet moments and in her heart, she knows that He does.

God loves her!

How do I know?

This little girl…

Is me!

Am I perfect? NO! Only Jesus was perfect. He accepts us as we are. We only need to believe and put our trust in Him.

I have poured out my heart in this blog… In closing, I want you to know…

God is real!

Jesus loves me and you!

Do some soul searching, take time to talk to God, read your Bible, ask questions, search for truth, and…

Just believe!

Sex fixes everything?

My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3 years. Our life has been a wonderful mixture of love, laughter, family times, fun times, work, and play! Sometimes it seems that we have better days than most of our friends and family.

However, we have days like everyone else where it seems we won’t get through a tough time. My husband always jokes around with me and says,

“Sex fixes everything!”

HUH? Yeah right! He will even tell me that when he goes to the doctor for his annual check up that the doctor tells him to have more sex. I just laugh!

Like I am to believe that? I am in my late-50’s going through menopause. Sometimes having sex hurts or there is no desire. Sometimes I get depressed and don’t want sex. Usually around winter months when we are couped up together and could have the best sex of our life. Dang!

What is menopause?

According to webmd.com, “Menopause is the end of a woman’s menstrual cycles. The term can describe any of the changes you go through just before or after you stop having your period, marking the end of your reproductive years.” Yes, I get grumpy, have mood swings, have hot flashes, have night sweats. Fun times! NOT!! However, I get through it.

I always felt that “making love” was better than “having sex.” Not true, I’ve experienced both in the past and feel that both have their advantages. “Making love” is an expression that I use to feel better about having sex. It’s a gentle experience that helps me feel loved. To me, I have to be “in the mood” to make love. “Having sex” is more of an aggressive way to make love and can be done at the spur of a moment. Anywhere, any time.

Him? He could be ready in a heartbeat. Well, with the help of a little blue pill. Cause he’s older too. It usually seems that guys can be ready for sex in an instant. Not always true. They are human too. After men turn 40, their testosterone levels lower making it harder for them to get an erection.

TESTOSTERONE

“Testosterone is the key male sex hormone that regulates fertility, muscle mass, fat distribution, and red blood cell production.” (https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/276013.php)

Since our marriage, we have tried out my husband’s theory on occasion and find that it works. Sex DOES fix everything! We both feel better, communicate better, and our love for each other flourishes. My depression lifts and I feel as though I can tackle the world. We overcome obstacles in our way. TOGETHER!

I recently read an article which I’d like to share with you… it’s a good read!

https://bigthink.com/Sofia-Gray/sex-depression-anxiety-symptoms

Sex can help you feel better, reduce anxiety, stress, and help you sleep better.

No, I am not saying just go out and have sex with anyone! If you are in a relationship, choose your partner. If you are not in a relationship, choose wisely. And, always practice safe sex! Use condoms! There are some nasty STD’s out in this world.

My advice, start loving yourself and…

HAVE MORE SEX!

Yes, my husband would agree!

Sources:

https://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/menopause-basics#1

https://bigthink.com

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com