My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3 years. Our life has been a wonderful mixture of love, laughter, family times, fun times, work, and play! Sometimes it seems that we have better days than most of our friends and family.
However, we have days like everyone else where it seems we won’t get through a tough time. My husband always jokes around with me and says,
“Sex fixes everything!”
HUH? Yeah right! He will even tell me that when he goes to the doctor for his annual check up that the doctor tells him to have more sex. I just laugh!
Like I am to believe that? I am in my late-50’s going through menopause. Sometimes having sex hurts or there is no desire. Sometimes I get depressed and don’t want sex. Usually around winter months when we are couped up together and could have the best sex of our life. Dang!
What is menopause?
According to webmd.com, “Menopause is the end of a woman’s menstrual cycles. The term can describe any of the changes you go through just before or after you stop having your period, marking the end of your reproductive years.” Yes, I get grumpy, have mood swings, have hot flashes, have night sweats. Fun times! NOT!! However, I get through it.
I always felt that “making love” was better than “having sex.” Not true, I’ve experienced both in the past and feel that both have their advantages. “Making love” is an expression that I use to feel better about having sex. It’s a gentle experience that helps me feel loved. To me, I have to be “in the mood” to make love. “Having sex” is more of an aggressive way to make love and can be done at the spur of a moment. Anywhere, any time.
Him? He could be ready in a heartbeat. Well, with the help of a little blue pill. Cause he’s older too. It usually seems that guys can be ready for sex in an instant. Not always true. They are human too. After men turn 40, their testosterone levels lower making it harder for them to get an erection.
TESTOSTERONE
“Testosterone is the key male sex hormone that regulates fertility, muscle mass, fat distribution, and red blood cell production.” (https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/276013.php)
Since our marriage, we have tried out my husband’s theory on occasion and find that it works. Sex DOES fix everything! We both feel better, communicate better, and our love for each other flourishes. My depression lifts and I feel as though I can tackle the world. We overcome obstacles in our way. TOGETHER!
I recently read an article which I’d like to share with you… it’s a good read!
https://bigthink.com/Sofia-Gray/sex-depression-anxiety-symptoms
Sex can help you feel better, reduce anxiety, stress, and help you sleep better.
No, I am not saying just go out and have sex with anyone! If you are in a relationship, choose your partner. If you are not in a relationship, choose wisely. And, always practice safe sex! Use condoms! There are some nasty STD’s out in this world.
My advice, start loving yourself and…
HAVE MORE SEX!
Yes, my husband would agree!
Sources:
https://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/menopause-basics#1
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com
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